"Your expectations, more than anything else in life, determine your reality. When it comes to achieving your goals, if you don’t believe you’ll succeed, you won’t." Travis Bradberry.
Travis is President of TalentSmart (a training provider specialising in emotional intelligence, and yes they do the joined up thing in their name). He contributed an article to LinkedIn (whatisitwiththistrendtorunwordstogether?) which boiled down to the pithy statement: Life's Not Fair.
The Harvard research alone is great to read and think about but the whole article is worthy of your time for further reflection.
Can't be bothered? Here's my Reader's Digest condensed version (at least they are not ReadersDigest yet).
We get the most out of other people when we believe in them.
Letting your doubts cloud your belief in someone (or something) practically ensures their failure.
Along the way he discusses a series of great fallacies:
- Life should be fair.
- Opportunities will fall into my lap
- Everyone should like me
- People should agree with me
- People know what I'm trying to say
- I'm going to fail
- Things will make me happy
- I can change him/her
Believing that you’ll succeed really does make it more likely that you will.